Being a Dad to a daughter is truly a privilege but sometimes communicating effectively can be frustrating. As fathers, we are always learning as we go. We are always trying to figure out what works best for our kids and ourselves. And when it comes to communicating with your daughter, it’s very important to choose your words wisely. Always think before you speak because there are definitely things a Dad should not say to his daughter.
1. “Stop being so dramatic”
As you may have already found out, saying “stop being so dramatic” only further escalates the situation, And if you have never said this, keep it that way. You don’t want to find out what happens when you do. Instead of saying this, use this opportunity to be empathetic and supportive.
2. “You drive me absolutely crazy”
Saying this will really negatively impact your daughter. She may not show it but it definitely hurts her feelings when or if you say this. You may get frustrated but avoid saying something along these lines. Using this language is a lot more powerful than you realize.
3. “You sound ridiculous”
Saying this invalidates how your daughter is feeling and may only escalate things. Ridiculing her by using this phrase will not help matters. It may result in a build up of resentment on her part.
4. “Talk to your mother”
Of course there may be instances that using this phrase is valid, it should not be used for everyday occurrences and especially when the both of you are bickering. You want to build trust and strengthen the bond between you both and directing her to mom does not help. You will want her to feel that she can come talk to you about anything.
5. “You’re a spoiled brat”
Name calling is not a good idea. Especially when you are an adult. Do your best to never use this statement.
6. “You’re so high maintenance”
Nothing good has ever come out of saying this to someone. It is not something a Dad should say to a daughter.
7. “Get away from me”
Sounds even more bad when it’s typed out. This phrase is really harsh and can have long-lasting effects.
8. “You’re such a disappointment”
Saying this can drastically reduce your daughter’s self-confidence. And a father, that is the last you want. Raising a strong, confident daughter should be your goal.
9. “Did you gain weight?”
This should be self explanatory but it could get overlooked. You may think that just because it’s your daughter; saying something about weight won’t have a negative impact. But in a lot of cases, making comments or statements around the topic of weight when not done in an effective manner, can impact your daughter in a negative way. Do your best to be more sensitive around the topics of weight and appearance.
Things you should never say to your daughter
- “Don’t bother telling me. I already know it was because of something you did.”
- “I don’t believe that. Half of everything you’ve ever said is a lie.”
- “Don’t you lie to me, you little b**ch.”
- “You look like a wh*re.”
- “You are useless.”
- “You are stupid.”
- “What’s wrong with you?”
- “Stop crying.”
- “You’re going to fail.”
- “You’re a mess.”
- “Smarten up.”
- “Must be that time of the month.”
- “No man is ever going to want to marry you.”
- “You are the biggest mistake of my life.”
- “You’re a stupid as you mom.”
- “You’re not an adult until you’re 18, I own you.”
- “Stop crying.”
- “You’re too sensitive.”
- “Threats against anyone that she is dating or might date.”
- “Stop being a baby.”
- “You are a loser.”
- “You are such an idiot.”
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Takeaway
Being a Dad is tough and managing your emotions is vital to your father-daughter relationship. There is not a perfect way to be a Dad but there are things a Dad should not say to his daughter. As a father, you want to be a source of trust, comfort and security for your daughter no matter how old she is. Be very mindful of how you speak to your daughter. Words matter. What you say can seem harmless from your point of view, but can be damaging to your daughter long-term.
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